Free to Fly
A funeral homily delivered by Rev. Peter T. Atkinson
March 26, 2017
For the funeral of Tom Southard
At Preddy Funeral Home, Gordonsville, VA
Isaiah
40: 6-8, 28-31
Philippians
3: 20-21
Let us pray,
Help us to see despite
our eyes
Help us to think outside
of our minds
Help us to be more than
our lives
For your eyes show the
way
Your
mind knows the truth
Your
being is the life.
Amen.
A voice says, “Cry
out!”
And I said, “What shall I cry?”
All people are grass,
their constancy is like the flower of the field.
7 The grass withers, the flower fades,
when the breath of the Lord blows upon it;
surely the people are grass.
8 The grass withers, the flower fades;
but the word of our God will stand forever.
And I said, “What shall I cry?”
All people are grass,
their constancy is like the flower of the field.
7 The grass withers, the flower fades,
when the breath of the Lord blows upon it;
surely the people are grass.
8 The grass withers, the flower fades;
but the word of our God will stand forever.
Have you not
known? Have you not heard?
The Lord is the everlasting God,
the Creator of the ends of the earth.
He does not faint or grow weary;
his understanding is unsearchable.
29 He gives power to the faint,
and strengthens the powerless.
30 Even youths will faint and be weary,
and the young will fall exhausted;
31 but those who wait for the Lord shall renew their strength,
they shall mount up with wings like eagles,
they shall run and not be weary,
they shall walk and not faint.
The Lord is the everlasting God,
the Creator of the ends of the earth.
He does not faint or grow weary;
his understanding is unsearchable.
29 He gives power to the faint,
and strengthens the powerless.
30 Even youths will faint and be weary,
and the young will fall exhausted;
31 but those who wait for the Lord shall renew their strength,
they shall mount up with wings like eagles,
they shall run and not be weary,
they shall walk and not faint.
. . . our
citizenship is in heaven, and it is from there that we are expecting a Savior,
the Lord Jesus Christ. 21 He will transform the body of our
humiliation that it may be conformed to the body of his glory, by
the power that also enables him to make all things subject to himself.
I was only blessed to
know Tom for just over the last five years, and I will say without question it
has been a blessing, perhaps because in all of my life I have never seen a more
devoted couple, completely and hopelessly devoted to each other than Tom and
Mary. They both just exuded a warmth and a compassion for eachother that was
unmissable. You could not spend a minute in their house and not see it and
describe it in the oh so familiar, but no less perfect word than cute. . .
after 60+ years of marriage, they were just the cutest couple you have ever
seen. . . the kind of cuteness that, that kind of love and devotion brings to
bear. We are blessed, anyone who has gotten to see them and be in their
presence, we are just blessed by the example of them, of Love and Marriage. . .
which is exemplified in a million little things, like glances and inside jokes,
the witty ways they would talk together, working together filling up the
communion cups at church, the gleam in their eyes as they listened to the other
talk, there are so many, but one that Mary shared with me the other day, just
sums it to the quick, and captures it so beautifully and touchingly, and that
is that Tom, every night before he went to bed, all the way to the end, said
thank you to Mary for taking care of him that day. . . how perfectly beautiful
is that, because he knew that it wasn’t easy, as parkinsons in it the slow, but
steady and constant decline of his body, placed much of the burden of care for
him on her, a burden she gladly carried in her love and devotion for him, but
it was not easy, and such a statement of gratitude, simply and genuinely given
let her know that he knew, and was forever grateful. . . it’s a little thing,
and it’s that important. . . an all too important lesson we often miss, but
that Tom’s life can teach us. . .
In addition to Tom’s love
for Mary, he also loved his family, and it was a large family, a slew of
brothers and sisters. . . I have often heard stories from Mary and Tom about
family gatherings at the Inwood. . . I too have a fondness for that great old
place and had sought to capture my thoughts of it in a poem, and it inspired
her to tell me about how much those family gatherings meant to Tom and to her.
. . it is the little rituals and memories that mean so much when it comes to
family. . . and the larger the family, and the closer the family, the more
vibrant and vivid do those memories fill our lives. I could hear listening to
them talk how fond those memories truly are.
Mary told me that I had
to mention one of Tom’s great passions, for Model Airplanes. . . that he so
loved to build and to fly them. To create something that could go up in the sky
as an extension of yourself, higher and higher, farther and farther, but still
controlled, the controls always firm in your hands as your thumbs control the
propellers, the slightest twitch, creating the distant turns and patterns above
and free on the wind. . . I was struck immediately to the metaphor. . . of Tom
himself now. . . flying free, like one of his airplanes. . . up in the air,
above and looking down, lovingly from his new perspective, on high, raised up
as Isaiah said on the wings of eagles, with renewed strength, and health and
vitality, away from the pain and frustration of a failing body, ravaged by a
cruel disease that struck his limbs, his muscles, his throat, but left his mind
as sharp and intact as ever, his heart as full of love as ever, now free again
to love and fly and watch over Mary, his brothers and sisters, and us all. . .
I was so moved by Mary Bomar’s song. . . how Amazing Grace is that Tom is set
free now from the chains, his chains that have bound him, the shackles of his
mortal coil no shaken and looseed and set free to fly, and Paul’s own words. .
. that in our citizenship in heaven, Christ has transformed the body, the body
of our humiliation. . . Tom’s Parkinson’s is no more, for his body has been
made new, conformed to the body of Christ’s glory. . . we do not ask to for our
lives here on Earth to be changed, for the struggles we bear form us. . . and
we know of God Sovereign Will, and certainly those struggles, they have formed
and strengthened the bond between Tom and Mary. . . but we do find comfort and
peace that when we are set free to fly with God in heaven, those struggles are
no more. I heard no better testament to truth in two things Mary said to me
this week. One before Tom’s passing and one just after. She said, “The Lord
will take Tom on His time, and it will not happen one minute sooner nor later
than that time.” And then she said, “Tom is in a much better place now.” Such
truth has the power to heal the pain of our broken hearts. . . it doesn’t
change our perspective on how much we will miss Tom, but comforts us in our
love for him, and warms us to the time of reunion, when our own time in turn
comes, and we get to see him again. . . until then we can share our love, and
empathy, and compassion. . . shedding the tears of loss, and sharing the
laughter and smiles of memory for a life lived, full and overflowing with love.
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